Why I Submit

Years ago my sister gave me a copy of Fifty Shades of Grey. I still remember reading it and thinking " no freaking way!" To be fair at the time I was in an abusive relationship and the last thing I wanted was to give that person more control over me.  Years later I find myself with a different opinion. Submission is the ultimate gift one person can give to another. It is the act of saying I trust you with my mind, body, well being, heart, and soul. There also a huge spiritual element from the high level of commitment and trust that goes into these types of relationships. If done right, you feel free, connected, loved , and even experience emotional release.  Everyone has their reasons to submit. Some people have high stress jobs, or lives and find comfort in another being in control. Some people like being dominated in the bedroom 🙋🏽.  Some people have been through traumatic experiences and find it has helped them heal. Some people have been abused and find it is a way to take back control of their lives.  Some people long for traditional relationships with traditional gender roles. So which category do I fit in to, well the honest answer is all of the above. I find comfort in traditional gender roles. The man needs to be the man. I have a job, I'm powerful in my own right. I do not want to be the person in charge of everything all the time.  I was abused most of my life. I had several men take things from me. I had my body broken, my soul crushed. I had no one to trust, and no say in my life. I had no happiness or joy.  I spent many years feeling lost and alone. So I chose. My Daddy has power only because I give it to him. There is something so freeing about that. I am overwhelmed with feelings of safety, protection, love, and happiness. Never in my life have I felt that. Finally, I can deal with my trauma. It doesn't take the nightmares away, but I feel "normal" and I didn't think it possible. I have safely worked through triggers and issues. Daddy and I have done things I never thought I'd be able to. I am slowly freeing myself from the shackles that is my past. It is very liberating. So why do I submit, because for once in my life I am in control ❤️😘💁🏻Sally