Contractual love ❤️

We had went back and forth about it for sometime. To have a contract or not. We were definitely new and still getting our feet wet in this whole BDSM lifestyle. Did we really want to got 24/7?  Was it a good idea for a once abused woman, and Oppressed man to write rules for their relationship?  I'm looking online at others who say "we love and trust each other we don't need a contract!"  Do we need one?  No, but maybe yes? The love of my life and I have been down a very rough road to get to each other. My road was paved with abuse, neglect, and being taken advantage of. His road was paved with abuse, neglect, lack of affection, and belittlement.  We could not decide on what kind of rope to use in the bedroom, but we were certain we did not want history repeating. It sounds simple enough doesn't it? Why write it down? Well because life and the human condition. We make promises all the time.  Late at night lying face to face in bed we whisper promises to be better, different, never take each other for granted. I will not hurt you like the others have, and we mean it until we don't.  Every relationship starts the same, we chase, we plan, we flatter, we drown them in attention, we.....well we try. Because there is still a chance that they might choose another and we don't want that.  Then we have them and they are finally ours.....he is mine, I win!!! So we spend the traditional small amount of time being the person we would want to be with, the perfect other half. Then we get routines, become complacent, get lazy.  We forget that relationships need work. Now I love, I mean love my (Daddy) Jack.  I know him, like he knows me. I trust him. I want to be his everything because he is mine.  So I feel like the best way to keep myself in check is to take out my contract and review it. Think about this, what if we took out our wedding vows every year and asked "Am I really loving him/her?" I mean beyond words. Are you  going out of your way to show it. Leaving letters, sending flowers, making special meals, turning off your god damn cell phone and paying attention to a real person for more than 5 seconds are you doing it?  What if we checked ourselves frequently and realized I have become a lazy lover?  Like in the beginning where you spent hours just worshiping each other, and what about now? Have you moved on to two rushed pecks, and a quick romp to quiet requests for affection?  I have a contract because I like to know what is expected, but to remember the promises we made to each other. The fact that we will always greet each other with affection,  He will protect me from being taken advantage of, that we will love each other even when it is difficult to like each other.  Do I need it because I don't know my Jack? No. Is it because we can't talk about expectations, limits, wants, needs? No.  We have a contract to protect what is most precious to us, our love.  I want to keep myself in check and remain the girl he loves, not the girl he misses while he's sitting next to me.  It might not be for everyone, but clearly defined lines are important to some.  So I, for one, am a fan of my contractual love <3