Women are not easy. Men are not mind readers. Sometimes we as women make the mistake of thinking they know what we want. Until the day they are yelling at you “I don’t know what you want!” So the best way to remedy that is to create a list of wants and needs. Self exploration, which will help him to understand me. So here we go.
Need: to feel safe- I like feeling like I have a protector. I need someone to look out for me because I can be soft when it comes to those I love. People will take advantage of me if allowed. I need to know that when I’m with you I’m safe. I need to know you won’t hurt me. I am strong only by appearances. In reality, I’m quite delicate.
Need: structure/order- I have to make decisions all day, I struggle with uncertainty. I need structure set rules, expectations. I have a hard time with second guessing if I’m asking I am looking to you for help. Even if that help is. “That’s okay with me” Making decisions actually causes me a great amount of anxiety. Having order is a comfort to me. At the same time I need reassurance, and to be pushed outside my box. While I may occasionally question something. Please see is as seeking clarification not challenging the decision.
Need: being loved, accepted, cherished. I need to know I’m loved. I need to know that I’m wanted and accepted. I know I’m not easy to love. I need to know that you can handle me, and won’t give up on me.
Need: guidance and direction. If left to my own device I will not do much but read. I need to be pushed to participate with people. Especially, having people over. It causes me stess but I need to do it. I just need to know you’ll be there with me.
Need: intimacy. I need to be touched, held, kissed and cuddled.
Need: to be understanded, and heard. Thoughts will drive me crazy if I don’t get them out I can’t function. So times all I need is “I understand”
I don’t really want for much. Small simple things. Notes and messages. Play with me like you’re my best friend. Text me when you miss me. Stand close to me while we’re out. I want to be the middle and I want Daddy that guides me well. I like that sort of thing. It brings me comfort, it helps me avoid chaos. I realize this is a simple list, but I’m a simple girl.
